First Things To know About Infertility.

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When you hear about infertility what is the first thing that comes to your mind? Of course, a married couple. I mean you hardly see a single person complaining of infertility.  People married for quite a number of years, and if you are Nigerian, few mother-in-law dramas because after the loud and big wedding the next thing is a baby bump and yes spending a reasonable amount of time in prayer houses. These are the starter packs for infertility.

I also noticed most times the woman is always at the receiving end. Everybody automatically assumes she’s the one with the problem which is false because the problem can be from the husband too.


Fun Facts

Infertility can affect one or both partners. In general: Continue reading “First Things To know About Infertility.”

Passage Between Your Legs: The Pleasure workshop.

The fourth edition of Passage Between Your Legs took place on the 10th of November, started at 2pm. This edition was titled “pleasure 101” and it was aimed at letting young people understand pleasure and how it can be translated into practicing safe sex. All activities done were aimed at ensuring each participant learnt a thing or two on their sexual health.

Introductions were made as there were new members. General rule is to say your name and mention a word related to sexuality (this is aimed and dispelling the stereotypes on sexual health). Mtv Shuga, a series on issues of sexual and reproductive health was showed, it lasted for 20 mins, a discussion on lessons learned include:

– Transactional sex,

– The importance of teaching comprehensive sexuality education to young people as they are always curious.

-Relationship dynamics and the importance of communicating with a partner.

So you think you can wear a condom?

Second activity was the condom-line up game. This game aims at teaching that using of condoms was beyond just a wearing process and it can be a pleasurable activity. Safe to say we now have people who are pros in using a condom correctly.

The final activity was the disussion on Pleasure 101.

Questions asked:

  • What is low libido and how can it improved?
  • Masturbation makes one want more sex and one cannot be satisfied.

Key take aways

What does pleasure mean to you?

  1. Know your erogenous zones such as the lips, breast, navel, inner thighs etc. Know what turns you on and off.

We are all the same parts but organized in a different way

-Emily Nagoski

Centering your pleasure:

  1. It is important to always communicate with a partner.
  2. Not all sex leads to orgasms, focus on enjoying the ride and not the end goal. This does not mean you should not want an orgasm its is your right to get an orgasm.
  3. understand your body. Know what your sex organs look and feel like and a good way to do that is masturbation.
  4. Pleasure is beyond penetration.
  5. Consent sex is pleasurable sex.

….With knowledge of pleasure how then can we have pleasurable safe sex?

Condom pleasure tips . We shared some tips on how to make condom pleausrable

Consent: always seek consent, with consent you are more relaxed and interested.

Sexual responsibility . When you know you have protected yourself from sti and unplanned pregnancy you are more likely to relax and enjoy sex with you partner.

After the session, we all took time to talk to each other. This is the last session for the year, passage Between your Legs resumes February 2019 and we hope you can join us.

Know The STI: Hepatitis B

Hepatitis B is a liver infection caused by the Hepatitis B virus (HBV). Hepatitis B is transmitted when blood, semen, or another body fluid from a person infected with the Hepatitis B virus enters the body of someone who is not infected. Hepatitis is an inflammation of the liver. The condition can be self-limiting or can progress to fibrosis (scarring), cirrhosis or liver cancer. Hepatitis viruses are the most common cause of hepatitis in the world but other infections, toxic substances (e.g. alcohol, certain drugs), and autoimmune diseases can also cause hepatitis. For some people, hepatitis B is an acute or short-term illness, but for others, it can become a long-term chronic infection. Risk for chronic infection is related to age at infection. Chronic Hepatitis B can lead to serious health issues, like cirrhosis or liver cancer. The best way to prevent Hepatitis B is by getting vaccinated.

Mode of transmission

Hepatitis B virus (HBV) is transmitted via blood or sexual contact. This can happen through sexual contact; sharing needles, syringes, or other drug-injection equipment; or from mother to baby at birth.

Types of Hepatitis

There are 5 main hepatitis viruses, referred to as types A, B, C, D and E. These 5 types are of greatest concern because of the burden of illness and death they cause and the potential for outbreaks and epidemic spread. In particular, types B and C lead to chronic disease in hundreds of millions of people and, together, are the most common cause of liver cirrhosis and cancer.

Hepatitis B virus (HBV) is transmitted through exposure to infective blood, semen, and other body fluids. HBV can be transmitted from infected mothers to infants at the time of birth or from family member to infant in early childhood. Transmission may also occur through transfusions of HBV-contaminated blood and blood products, contaminated injections during medical procedures, and through injection drug use. HBV also poses a risk to healthcare workers who sustain accidental needle stick injuries while caring for infected-HBV patients. Safe and effective vaccines are available to prevent HBV.

Hepatitis C virus (HCV) is mostly transmitted through exposure to infective blood. This may happen through transfusions of HCV-contaminated blood and blood products, contaminated injections during medical procedures, and through injection drug use. Sexual transmission is also possible, but is much less common. There is no vaccine for HCV.

Hepatitis D virus (HDV) infections occur only in those who are infected with HBV. The dual infection of HDV and HBV can result in a more serious disease and worse outcome. Hepatitis B vaccines provide protection from HDV infection.

Signs and symptoms

Symptoms may not manifest until 1-6 months after getting infected with the virus. Some signs to look out for include: Jaundice( yellowing of the skin or white of the eyes). Fever, fatigue, loss of appetite, nausea, belly pain, and vomitting.


Diagnosis is made with blood tests( there are rapid tests available now), physical examination, the liver would also be checked to determine if it healthy.

It is however advised to get tested and vaccinated as it is preventable.


Hepatitis B virus (HBV) infection in a pregnant woman poses a serious risk to her infant at birth. It is associated with high risk complications for the mother and has become a leading cause of foetal death. Transmission to the foetus occurs if the mother has had acute hepatitis B infection during late pregnancy or if the mother ia a chronic carrier.


Cente for disease control and prevention viral hepatitis

DIY: Breast Self-Examination

Breast self-examination as the name implies is the practice of checking the breast on a monthly basis to detect any abnormalities. It is quite common to experience breast tenderness one or two weeks before your period. At different times in your growing years, there are several factors that can cause changes in your breast such as:

  • Increase in age
  • Menstrual cycle
  • Pregnancy
  • Breastfeeding
  • Birth control pills.

It is still however very important to examine your breast monthly, you should note

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Common Myths of Intimate Partner Violence.

Myths Of Intimate Partner violence

I found myself one time in the midst of older women a mix of women in their 30s, 40s and 50s talking and trying to help one of the women solve some of her issues, soon the topic of discussion tilted to another woman who was being battered by her husband, I was in a mix of anger and sadness I hated to hear of women being battered and I could not help. My worries didn’t stop at that I was worried because of the conclusions made about how she could have avoided being battered, they were not sure why she got battered as this woman was said to be a calm gentle person so why was she getting battered? Which is why I decided to talk about this, there are a lot of myths associated with battering and this only helps to fuel the issue of intimate partner violence (Domestic Violence) and we need to unlearn these myths and renew our minds so we can help women in situations of Intimate partner violence. Continue reading “Common Myths of Intimate Partner Violence.”

How not to have an Abortion

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Abortions is a very sensitive topic to be discussed in Nigeria which a lot of people shy away from because of various reasons mostly religious reasons, it is still however occurring. In Nigeria abortions are illegal except in a case where the life of the woman has to be saved, hence, it’s tagged a life saving procedure. In other countries there are different Abortion laws with the various conditions. One would think that as religious as Nigeria is plus the abortion law in place the abortion rate would be low,

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A 1000 Days Makes All the Difference

A Thousand Days Makes All The Difference

Every woman hopes to achieve have a healthy baby and if possible ensure the baby is healthy and strong throughout the growing years till adulthood, a lot of women, however, don’t know how to achieve this task which seems unachievable but yet is achievable if only we knew that A 1000 days makes all the difference. The first 100 days of a child’s life is very critical. Women do things during this critical period to

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We Should All Be Sexually Responsible.

Ayo and Joshua are two young people who want to meet up and have a rump in the sack(I mean sex), as expected Joshua does the chasing Ayo is interested but due to the Nigerian factor she acts like she isn’t interested, eventually agrees to meet up with him at his house. They meet up and they ended up having sex Joshua didn’t have a condom, Ayo didn’t bring a condom along either.  Oops!!!

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Can Cesarean Section Affect Breastfeeding?

It is quite common to hear women who go through a cesarean section complain about not breastfeeding adequately or having difficulty with establishing breastfeeding. Cesarean births are associated with a delay in initiating breastfeeding. Cesarean births affect breastfeeding by delaying the initiation and establishment of lactation but not continuance which means you might experience a delay with your milk coming in but not with maintaining the milk supply. There needs to be a commitment to breastfeeding despite the manner of birth. Many mothers who go through a cesarean section usually feel like they failed as women

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